Fits For Grown ups

Have you ever been caught off guard by someone in your life that insists on getting their own way no matter what?

Yesterday was such a hard day for me- I literally cried for a couple of hours - partly because I'm a girl and hurtful behavior gets to me and partly and more importantly because someone I do respect ripped me a new one for something that was completely out of my control.......and he knew it.

So in my trying to snap out of my frustrated crying fit I asked myself: What did it accomplish for him to indulge this fit of self righteousness other than to cause me pain?

I think part of growing up is to realize when something is wrong and rejecting it. I understand being pissed about it to the extent that you do want to blow up- but let's be real here.....what is blowing up going to accomplish?? I think it's better to work toward making it right. If your not in the proper state of mind to take on that task then say so and move on until you are ready.

By no means am I saying that when a person is wronged as was the case above that you should just roll over and take it. I wouldn't and I say you shouldn't either. Backbone is the base for integrity and that's something I would never want to deny anyone. I just think a total history of the person your dealing with should count for something. Some things no matter how hard you try will not go your way. It's called a "difference of opinion" or "doing what's best for #1" or how ever way you want to think about it, but in the end all things can not and will not be as you'd like them to be. Recognizing that and making a choice to not be cruel to innocent parties who have treated you well and want to work with you to better situations is important.

How you treat people is important!

So I sit here today at around the same time as yesterdays incident and I think we are still in the same exact place as yesterday. We still have not resolved the point of contention....both of us had a fit.... and I for one don't feel any better about the situation. I don't know if he does-- he may, but I doubt it cause he's not getting what he wants.

What did happen for sure is: I understand no matter what becomes of this situation that this person will not hesitate to disrespect me and I have been "put on notice" but I in turn have less respect for him overall and am questioning how I'll handle my future interaction with him. Burning your bridges can make for a choppy path in the future.